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Been acting like a single parent for almost 2.5 years (since my sweet girl born).

Im not a real single parent just like the words define. Im still married and have a husband. But in most circumstances, Im a must-be single parent.
Why?
Its because me and my husband are working in two different cities. Until last November, I was a single parent from Monday morning to Friday night because my husband had to go to Cilegon due to his working location.
Starting last December, I have became single parent in act from Monday to Sunday, 24-7 (24 hours in 7 days) because my husband accepted new job farther than Cilegon. Where is he now? In Paiton! (have you heard about this place?)
Not that I complain about it. Its been our decision to live like this from the beginning he accepted the Cilegon offer. Only that, at that time we havent got any sweet baby yet. And it was our decision too that he accepted the job in Paiton coz the offer was lots better. Well, the separation is temporarily anyway. Me and Dira will be moving out to Paiton soon.
Anyway, what Id like to say here that, lately I feel its so hard to be a must-be single parent. I mean, in critical situation like when my sweet daughter gets sick, I must do quick thinking and decide whats best for her.
*sigh* And I was just been there in the situation again last week must make right decisions must take 2-day leave from the office must put my daughter in top priority and disregard my office work etc.
This time, it became a little bit tiring because I had to think alone. Yes, I can reach my husband through phone and discuss about it with him. But still, I was the one whose facing the real situation all alone and my husband laid all decisions on my shoulder. Do the best for her, he said. Easy for him to say that, my hearts complaining.
OMG! I can now feel how hard it is to be a real single parent, especially for single mum (sorry single dad!).
(I think, men as single parents cant stand being single in a long time. Men will get married as soon as they can. Women in the contrary. If they are financially independent, women tend to choose not to get married as soon as they can. Women prefer to raise her child/children all alone, unless they find much more better future husband.)
Maybe thats what my mums been through after my dad gone. I was still in college when dad passed away and needed money to continue my study. Thats why my mum tried to find orders to prepare wedding room from friends and relatives.
Today, with this posting, I want to raise two thumbs up for all single parents out there. A position where not everyone wants to take and be in it. Salute!
Please, to anyone whose mom or dad choose not to get married again for the sake of his/her child/children, appreciate your parent right away for all efforts they have done for you.
And if they somehow decide to get married again, support their wishes. Ofcourse, after you make sure that the future husband/wife can be a good parent for you. I know, most children will reject their moms/dads decisions to get married. But maybe the children must see their wishes beyond their egos. Who knows your single parent has reached his/her limit and really wants to have someone to share the burden.
Just another thought of my kinky mind.